I did security work for a long time, a very long time, and the only fights I couldn’t de-escalate were with cops. All the worst experiences were with cops.
Anybody else was easy. They’d cross some line or be acting like an asshole and I’d tell them they had to go. Which they’d take as a challenge. To which I’d say “what, you wanna go? You wanna go man? Let’s step outside!” And they’d agree, and we’d walk to the door, I’d open it for them, they’d step outside. And then I’d lock the door.
Learn to articulate how you’re feeling without accusing anyone of having bad intentions. You can say “I’m afraid of being alone” without saying “you’re just going to leave me like everyone else.” You can say “I need some reassurance” without saying “you probably don’t love me anymore.” You can say “I’m afraid I’ve hurt your feelings and I’d like to talk it through” without saying “you don’t even like me anymore.” You can say “I want to spend more time with you” without saying “you’ve gotten tired of me.” You can say “I feel misunderstood” without saying “you always judge me.” Try not to let your emotions get the best of you. Have a conversation focused on finding solutions instead of escalating the conflict.
I’ve seen this new trend of girls posting videos like “I hate my boyfriend for bringing all of his stupid boy things into our apartment when we moved in together 🙄” and then pictures of his hot wheels collection or a Halloween skeleton or an extremely cool pirate flag. Give him to me you do not deserve him.
Especially when she shows it juxtaposed against her decor which is all like beige lampshades and live laugh love signs
